I’m hardly a barfly (thanks to having a heavy schedule and being somewhat of a homebody) but once a week or so I will go out and have a few drinks with friends. We are restricted to places with “ladies night” specials because we poor, working college girls can not afford the heavy price of mixed drinks- and of course, as luck would have it, we’re not big fans of beer.
When telling my mom about the situation, she asked me why I didn’t just go out and wait to have drinks sent to me from guys. As if it’s that simple!
I find that in a college town, this is highly unlikely. Unless the “guy” is someone you are already dating. In Stillwater bars at least, strange men are more likely to try to grab your thigh than to buy you a drink (another reason I don’t go out much…)
Is it because we’re all broke in college, and no one can afford to buy each other drinks? (I guess I would have better luck if I liked cheap beer…)
I thought that had to be the reason, but after what happened last night, I’m not so sure if it’s a matter of money…
Last night, I was in line at a bar to get some water to wind down the night, and the man next to me (he looked about 10 years older than me and probably had a good job) let me go in front of him and chatted me up all the way to the register. When we got to the front, he asked what my favorite shot was. Naturally, I assumed he was trying to buy me a shot. I told him I don’t do shots, but I might accept something else small. And you know what his response was? He said, “No, not for you- I meant for me. What shot should I get?”
I was caught off guard. I always understood that it was polite to buy a lady a drink if you are getting to know her and ordering one yourself. At the very least, I would expect him to leave me out of his decision-making process completely- that would have been fine. But to ask me for input and not even refill my $2 drink? (Not that I wanted one, I was done- but the offer would have been nice.)
Is it because women can have their own jobs these days? That never seems to stop men of my mother’s generation. So when did those nice dads stop teaching their sons bar manners?
Or maybe times have changed, and I’m just out of luck? What do you think about this?
It’s not that I’m completely sexist. I think if I were making enough money, I would be quick to buy my own drinks and even drinks for others I was associating with- but I would expect the same treatment from anyone else who could afford it.
What about you?